I’ve decided to name this post after a song from Bjork that I really adore. I think the message of the song sums up what I’ve been through in the past month and what I’ve taken away from it. I’ve posted up the song and the lyrics at the end of this post. I know a lot of people are turned off by Bjork and even I’ve only started getting into her music in the past year or so. Wow, I think I’ve been missing out because if you look past Bjork’s quirkiness she has a way of conveying emotions and expressing herself in a way that you can’t find in the music industry lately.
Anyway, this month has been a particularly hard month for me. I’ve been forced to look at myself and face my emotions instead my usual routine of burying them when I don’t understand them. I don’t want to disclose too many details because I wish to protect those close to me. But I truly realized how poorly people understand each other and how much people view others in the context of their own expectations. A lot of people feel lonely because in reality others cannot live up to the fantasy image we create for them. We are left feeling disappointed and we continue to eternally search (in vain) for that image in our minds. A lot of people feel cut off because they also can’t live up to other people’s images either and we feel lost and confused. It’s a lose-lose situation. How can we expect others to live up to OUR image when we can’t realistically live up to THEIRS?
I’ve heard this said many times before but it’s one thing to hear it and another to understand it. The key here is to drop the expectations and the preconceived notions. That way we can open our minds and our hearts to the acceptance and the love that is already there. Instead we unconsciously and even consciously block others and the love that comes with it out.
The only person that is keeping us in a state of loneliness is ourselves. When one door shuts we focus on that closed door so much that we don’t notice that somewhere else another door has opened. We pour so much of our energy into something or somebody that we forget that someone else is pouring their energy into us. Sometimes we are so in love with an image of someone that when the person don’t immediately live up to our expectations we are quick to give up on them without giving them a chance to express how much they care in their own way. By the way when I speak of love, I am not just referring to romantic love, but all other forms of love as well.
I’ve come to realize (and I’m still learning) that love is timeless, formless, and nameless. It defies the law of physics. Love doesn’t have expectations and it defies people’s expectations of it. Love doesn’t keep tabs on how many things someone did right and how many things they did wrong. Sure everyone has a breaking point. Sometimes we can’t take it anymore and we leave. But that doesn’t mean the love isn’t there.
I am still very much an amateur at this and I realize that this will be a lifelong growing process. I think that the best I can do is cherish those I care about and never take for granted the time I have with them. I find it so much more easier and gratifying to remember all the good moments than to agonize over the bad moments. In this way I can see the good in people and appreciate them for who they are: a human, an imperfect one, but a human who wants to give and receive love.
Before this post gets anymore sappier than it already is, I’ll end it in a more soothing note. I hope you enjoy the song as much as I do. Bjork’s videos tend to be unusual but I think there are various ways of interpreting it, you just have to keep watching and listening over and over again. Enjoy!
“All is full of love” on YouTube
(lyrics courtesy of www.azlyrics.com)
“All Is Full Of Love”
You’ll be given love
You’ll be taken care of
You’ll be given love
You have to trust it
Maybe not from the sources
You have poured yours
Maybe not from the directions
You are staring at
Twist your head around
It’s all around you
All is full of love
All around you
All is full of love
You just ain’t receiving
All is full of love
Your phone is off the hook
All is full of love
Your doors are all shut
All is full of love!
All is full of love
All is full of love
All is full of love
All is full of love
All is full of love
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