Comments on: How to use expectation to your advantage

By: Valerie M

Valerie M — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 14:49:56 +0000

Jeremy,
Interesting example from your work out trial. It’s funny because I’ve been doing something similar myself, not as hardcore as your story (I’m just NOT there yet, uhuh), but just trying to get into the habit of working out every day. Well I did that for 2 weeks straight, missed a day or two after that and I’ve back on. Like you, I don’t need to lose weight or anything and I’m not unhappy with my body as is. I wanted to do it more for the health purposes, to feel more energetic, and of course, I’d also be lying if I said I didn’t want to tone up a bit and get more of a model body. So I hear you!

But honestly… after two weeks of doing that, it just feels great to get up and do something active everyday even if nothing ever came out of it. I think so many inactive people are missing out on that experience (like I did), it really doesn’t have to be hard and there doesn’t need to be a goal other than to enjoy the process in and of itself. I love the point you made here… thanks for sharing!

By: Jeremy Johnson

Jeremy Johnson — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 02:29:26 +0000

This was a really well thought out article. It seems to be an ever present mentality in society with people that achieving something at a given date is what it takes to be happy. But what happens when/if you achieve it? Does some magic Genie appear and now grant you wishes?

I’ll use my P90X workout as an example. I decided to do the workout – I was skinny enough and in good condition before it. But I wanted to get toned because it would make me feel good. And I worked out like crazy for the whole 90 days and really had great results. When day 90 hit, did I all of a sudden transform into some divine being? Nope – however, the journey of the whole thing is really what made the difference for me in changing my attitude and mindset. The completion of the goal was but a fleeting moment. To me, it’s all about the journey, every day, taking it all in and embracing the good and bad.
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By: Neeraj Bhushan

Neeraj Bhushan — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 03:12:58 +0000

Hi! Some wonderful expressions here.

To share with you, I’m a person who lives in present. When I get up in the morning, I don’t remember yesterday; I only carry the good things with me. Nor do I think of tomorrow or 10-20 years from now. This I don’t do as a practice; it’s in my nature. And it works.
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By: Valerie M

Valerie M — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 01:30:35 +0000

@Amit: Good point about intentions not being obvious. People always come up with their own reasons why they think someone else does or says something and a lot of the times, it’s wrong. I used to make that mistake a lot; now I’m just learning not to assume someone else’s intention. Give them the benefit of the doubt, so to speak.

@Travis: The motto for my graduating class in high school was basically to “put off for tomorrow what you could do today.” We all thought it was funny at the time because we were all hardcore master procrastinators. But now… yea, you realize that attitude gets you into more trouble than its worth. The one redeeming quality about procrastination: you only have a limited amount of time to do whatever it is you need to do. Admittedly you don’t need procrastination to do that… you DO need lots of self-discipline.

By: Travis

Travis — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 19:22:11 +0000

I used to undergo a very similar mindset myself… I’d always wait until “tomorrow” to get started on my bigger plans. “Once I graduate from school, I’ll finally have enough time to do what I love.” But I realized…. screw that, I can start on my plans (and thus, my happiness) TODAY. Why wait for what tomorrow brings when today is still fresh and ripe?
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By: Amit Sodha - The Power Of Choice

Amit Sodha - The Power Of Choice — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 15:38:19 +0000

It’s sometimes tough to move on but understand when it needs to be done and following through on it is a very powerful thing. I said on my blog recently, not everyone understands my intentions, I may let someone go because they were being dependant on me but they might see me as deserting them but that isn’t necessarily my intention.

Thought provoking as always!
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By: Valerie M

Valerie M — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 03:33:57 +0000

Hi, Mac. Interesting example of how expectations can screw you over in poker. I personally don’t know how to play poker, so I didn’t know it could get so complex. Nice site by the way… I guess you must be focusing on blogging about poker now? That’s really great, you could really succeed with that!

By: Mac

Mac — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 21:21:56 +0000

I can relate a lot to this with poker.

Everyone sees the top guys who make millions a year and thousands a day. Even the normal pros who make a few hundred a day.

For players starting out, they rush to the big stakes as I did in order to develop an income with poker without the knowledge and experience to win.

Some people win but play at small stakes and feel rushed to move higher and higher.

Making goals to being a poker millionaire is great but it’s something that is just a goal. If you focus on a million dollar income from poker your mind will tell you you won’t do it playing for pennies.

Making goals makes today seem like nothing, I like to always focus on small parts of a goal or task and not think of the bigger picture.
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