At Microsoft, we make a big deal about making assumptions explicit … getting them on the table … and testing them. It’s a good thing. It helps find limiting thought patterns, as well as ways to improve the thinking. Sure, sometimes it hurts as you’re thinking gets poked and prodded, but it’s always a learning experience
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@ Kevin: I’ve see that play out so many times. You’re right. it is glaringly obvious that they do care about whatever it is they claim they don’t care about. Thanks for bringing that up, it’s a very good point.

@ Bernard: Hello and welcome! I love the twist on the words, here.. very clever! And I definitely do appreciate it.

I was trained to believe (GOD) put me here because I’m special and he loves us; and he loves me most of all. He is my (GOD). The loving (GOE). The one that magically made this world for me, this (GOE) of mines. You know (EGO!)… Everything is made for us in this world, as we’re trained to think. Some even think that is a dream we’re in, and there really isn’t a reality it is all thought. So you are the center point of everything because without you there is no reality. If I wasn’t here you exist? (If a tree fall in the forest does it make a sound) I suppose the world does revolve around me. And why shouldn’t it. Kings, The Rich, everyone in power seem to think so or at least they try to make it that way. And for “assuming” well, everyone should be as smart and great as I am.  You see I assume I was created, because hey stuff doesn’t randomly come out of nowhere. It gives me GREAT comfort and security to think this way. And about know everything I have one simple answer GOD/EGO made it! That’s the answer to everything so what bother hurting my brain to think. So having an answer I assume is true makes me feel better.

P.S. I hope you can appreciate multi level common/response. My mind works in mysterious way.. lol

But nice thoughts.

Ah, the ego.
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Isn’t that ironic, about your last statement? Conversely, people say that those who are ‘selfless’ really aren’t because they are trying to fulfill a personal goal. I guess you can’t have the selflessness without the selfishness and vice versa.

You had some real fire behind this post Valerie. I’d be curious to know if some recent situations spurred it. But you’re right about people generally not caring too much about others – since they are so concerned with themselves.

I think the people who make a difference on a large scale find a way to make large numbers of people care about them.
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I was giving a realistic example of assuming something. To portray my point with a real thing but use a assumption that is made up to show how I would be thinking and then show what the reality of the situation really is and that honest upfront communication would resolve the assumptions instead of perpetuating an assumption into a spiral of nonsense that could be stopped with something as simple as a question:

Why is it that..? What really happen? What is your view? What do you mean?

it’s rather funny that you assumed I tried to be disrespectful to you on your own blog.. Instead of saying something like…

“Hey what did you mean that I’m jealous, this is what you think?” Which then you would get a reply “No, I was just creating an example to illustrate my argument to support your post”

Rather instead what is created as a result is a rather negative situation where an argument and other disagreements take place.

But one question, did you plan all this? (lol)
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@ ForNot: I really loved the way you put it about moving to ‘another vantage point than the center of activity.’ But you do bring up a point that the anger is because of the other person’s self-centeredness. But if they’re actions are insulting to us because it is akin to saying that we’re not important enough… then we really aren’t any less self-centered than the offender. So perhaps, we’re seeing ourselves in them? Not sure.

@ Mac: I agree that honest communication is necessary if you really want to simplify your life. In putting others before yourself, however, it’s probably a good idea to have honesty, but with tact. I also see how people do put up a front in order to portray themselves as something they are not. It definitely ISN’T honest and it is running from a very self-centered, ego-driven point of view. Society of liars? Perhaps. It also has to do with our desire to fit in with the ‘whole,’ which is perfectly normal as our genes have preconditioned us to do so as a way to survive and to return to our natural state (if you want to get spiritual about it). It’s how we act on it that determines whether it’s damaging or not.

As for your “joke,” I’m not amused. I appreciate everyone’s comments, but if you’re going to say something, please keep it respectful.

If you get into an accident, are you thinking about how you might of just caused someone heath problems, legal problems, or are you thinking about if it’s your fault and if your going to have problems and how to resolve this or whatnot.

We look at our life, and experiences first. We see our suffering first, our pains first and only when alerted by anger or yelling or empathy do we realize that there is more to the perception then just ourself.

This ties into the whole “pissing you off” you talked about because people look at themselves and see “gosh this person made me wait 30 mins”, “this person did this”.

You haven’t been on msn in a while, you must be ignoring me because your jealous of my Superior thinking and strong emotional control in dealing with situations. Or it could just be that you have better things to do, or the fact that I haven’t been on either . (A joke )

if you notice when watching some tv drama, you can see everyone, their true feelings thoughts and all actions. While the individual actors playing the character don’t. You often forsea a mistake a character in the show will make because you know something they don’t.

Well I have always thought that, if you just communicate and be honest and don’t bullshit and cover things up then you life will be real and will have fewer complications and drama, then if you where to assume, and lie to others about what is going on and the truth only comes out in the moment of anger or some emotional die like maybe during a serious illness someone may have or whatever.

Honesty is sometimes hard because we want to perpetuate an illution of ourself to others to show that we are as good or better then them.

How many people do you see driving around in a nice care with some visual upgrades, you must think they are very wealthy, most of the time they are not and they spend every last dollar and maybe credit to pay for and maintain that car to perpetuate an illusion that they have lots of money.

I heard somewhere that “we are a society of liars” and I think I agree with that

You miss my long posts?
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